Why do you carry the burdens you were not meant to carry and pawn off the ones you are meant to carry? Empathy for others is the come along side them and help them carry their weight, not carry the weight for them or help them blame the world for the burden. You steal the blessings that were meant for that person by not allowing them to go through the struggle.
On the reverse of that, if you pawn off your burdens entirely on someone else, you do not get the blessing of the growth God intended.
Blessed in our suffering.